advise to brides
What is life about? If you knew you only had one day to live ...How would you spend it? What would be important?
Life is about choices but sometime it's not our choice to make.
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of "attitude" on life. Attitude , to me, is more imprtant than facts, education, past, money, circumstances, than what other perople think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, gifted or skill. People feelings are the most important part of life.
We can not change our past....We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We can not change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude....Life throws you lemons make lemonade...With the right attitude life is better...Life is not about money, material things it's about "feelings".
Linda I know some flowers have different meanings.
Could you let me know what they are?
Thank you for writing me with your questions. I love to get questions.
Originally the bride and her bridesmaids carried bouquets of garlic and chives to drive away evil spirits. Apple blossoms means better things to come, Ivy means good luck and eternal fidelity. The rose.... there is no flower that has been revered and celebrated as much as the rose. As a source of inspiration to people throughout history., roses are the definitive symbol for love and appreciation. symbolizes beauty and happiness. Yellow rose is Joy and friendship, caring and knowledge. Red rose is love, beauty courage respect and romantic love, Pink is apprictions, White rose is purity. .. orange blossom stands for fertility and happiness...Carnations, As one of the most poplar flowers in the world, the carnations is widely appreciated and enjoyed, symbolic of love and fascintion...Gerbera Daisies distinguished by their large, beautiful blooms, gerbera daisies have become a favorite choice for expressing cheerful sentiments... meanings of beauty and innocence... Iris representing faith, hope and wisdom. Orchids with an exotic apperarance... orchids have come to represent rare and delicate beauty. Peruvian lities meaning friendship and devotion... Stargazer lilies are a floral celebrity, stargazer lilies are young, bold, beautiful, and dramatic... The meaning of these fragrant flowers can be one of wealth and prosperity, but their white variety can dress down to genuinely express purity and sympathy... when you give flowers or making your bridal bouquet think of what the meanings are behind your flowers.
In this era of high cost, many couple are intimidated by the idea of a big wedding.
I have the answer. You can have the wedding of your dreams and made affordable by renting.Why Should I rent my wedding dress? I'll answer this with a question, why would you want to buy your wedding dress? This is a very expensive item. You wear it only once. You can use the money you save on other things in the wedding and have a fancier wedding or even a honeymoon. You'll have the pictures for memories...A picture... holds time... of the most memorable day of your life,you will never look better in your dress than your wedding day. Wedding gowns take a lot of room to store, and a lot of care. Even with the best of care sometimes they turn yellow. After the wedding... the dress will need cleaned... that another expense. I have 2 to 3 calls a day past brides wanting to sell their wedding dresses, I won't buy them and I don't know anyone that will.Your wedding dress is the most important part of the wedding, When you're going the aisle... no one know if your rented the dress or bought it, they'll just say how beautiful you are.
You can rent complete outfits for 8 people for the price of the wedding gown...This is the way of the future
rental clothing for 8 people only $1158.55
bride 3 bridesmaid groom and 3 groomsmen
dress dress tuxedo
slip slip shirt
bra bra vest
body shaper body shaper tie
shoe shoe pocket square
jewelry jewelry jewelry
Ask yourself these questions
When am I ever going to wear the wedding gown again?
*Save it for your 25 year anniversary.
haha we have a funny god, ask your mother what size she was when she got married. I was a size 0 and look at me now.
Today, I had a mother of one of my past brides, bring in her dress for me to redo for her 25th wedding anniversary, she wanted to surprise her husband. She had it preserved and had never opened the gold box. Spent 100's dollars 24 years ago. I had her open the box and it was like all the other dresses I have opened. Runt, it had turned yellow, beads were dis-colored. She didn't want any one to see the dress, very up set. It was a size 4 and she was now a size 24, she couldn't even get it over her head. What can you do???I told her I could make it fit She said no I don't want any one to see this, why did it discolor? I don't know why but all the dresses that has been preserve in a gold box, that I have opened has been this way. There is no way to get out the discolor, anyway I haven't found it. So If you buy your dress don't have it preserved. I found cleaning them and putting them out of light is the best but better yet, save the money and rent.
Rent and you will save money and heartache.
Why do I want to buy my wedding gown?
*Save it for your daughter? come on you had your dream dress let her have hers. 20 years from now that beautiful dress will be yellow and out dated. I started my business back in 1986, come look at my walls I have pictures of those brides. You would not want to wear any of those dresses. Big sleeves, shoulder pads, and the bigger bow the better. That was what was in , 20 years from now, style will be different.
What am I going to do with the dress after the wedding?
Where am I going to store my wedding gown?
Do I have to have it cleaned?
What is the cost of cleaning?
*Wedding dresses take alot of care before and after the wedding. It cost $100's to have it cleaned and after the wedding it has to be cleaned or it would be runt. the oil from your body will turn them yellow. They take alot of room to store. This isn't like any other dress. Renting you don't have to worry about
Give me a reason why you should buy...You say, " memories"
You are never going to look any better in that wedding gown than the day of your wedding. Why not get a big picture of you in the dress that can be displayed and looked at often. Thats your memories.
I have been in business for years and I have past brides trying to sell me their wedding gowns. I won't buy them and I don't know any one that will.
Have you ever been a bridesmaids?
What did you do with the dress?
Did you like the dress?
Think about it.
We specialize in custom wedding, Flower girl, mother and bridesmaid gowns made affordable by renting
Renting? saves lots of money...makes sense...
The money I save on my dress we can have a better wedding or even a honeymoon
Can't find the perfect dress? We have the answer....We will create it! You tell me what you want and I can take a dress and create the perfect dress. You can buy it or rent it..Renting makes it affordable.
renting is smart... You can have a wedding at affordable price. It can a custom design, made just for you. With the rental alterations are just $10.00 no matter what we do. My sister in law , and I both sew, We can give each dress several looks. You want something different we can do it. You want a Special look we can create it.
Are you wanting to wear your mother dress? We can take that out dated dress and create a up dated look. Alterations and cleaning of the gowns are done by the owner of Tomorrow's Memories. Done it since 1986. Prices are up front before we start on your dress
Why go with us for your wedding?
Tomorrow's Memories Bridal and Tuxedo Shop is a Mom and Pop business, it's not a corporation or chain store. We are different, Our store is very family. This is our life not a job and it shows. You deal with the owner that started the business in 1986 and her family. We want your wedding to be your own way and we help you create the wedding of your dreams. We make it affordable by renting.
We care...go to our website www.tmbridalshop.com and facebook Tomorrow's Memories Bridal timeline read what our past brides say about us. I have the brides at I had back in 1980's and 1990 bring their daughters and sons in for there weddings. You become family at Tomorrow's Memories not a number.
If you still want to buy your dress, we will sell you a dress off the rack. Our dresses are update and some are new.
We buy our dresses just like the other stores from the designers. We carry most the name brands Maggie Sottero, Alfred Angelo the list goes on.
We will custom it just for you.
.We also do alterations for brides that already have their dress that they have purchased somewhere else. Alteration prices are on our website.
Call us now for an appointment! 316-733-0860
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Tomorrow's Memories Bridal and Tuxedo Shop is a "Mom and Pop" small business store. You deal with the owner that started Tomorrow's Memories back in 1986 and her family. We care, we want you to look your best as this is not just a job but our lifes'. We love what we do and it shows.
What happens if my tuxedo doesn't fit. Well, We alter the tuxedo's. If you need it taken in at the waist we will alter it.
Shorten in the sleeve or making the sleeves longer. No problem, it will take us minutes and you will look perfect. Pants too short or too long....minutes and it will be fixed. Ask the other shops what they will do if it doesn't fit?
Are you Big in the chest and small in the waist? Tuxedo' s are not made for this style body. We take it in at the waist, so show off your waist and you won't look like you are wearing a box.
ASK the other shops, they tell you they can not alter the tuxedo because they are rental. Linda sews and our tuxedo suppliers lets her alter them. She good and only takes her minutes.
We have lots of tuxedo's from
country to fancy...camo to fairy tale
What ever you want we have
A place your treated like family, where your wedding is as important to us and it is to you.
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316-733-0860 call for appointment
I am start a question and answer blog about weddings. I started Tomorrow's Memories in 1986 and wrote a wedding advise column for the Andover Paper for a 2 years. I have done a lot of weddings over the years. Give me your questions and I will give you my take on the answers.
Why? are you getting married? Because you are in love. The feeling you get when that person is near you and how you feel when they are not.
Always remember the "Why" you want to get married. Don't ever lose sight of it. Weddings are very high in the feelings and sometimes get out of control.
Attitude, will make your wedding or spoil it.
We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We can not change the past. We can not change the inevitable. the only thing we can do is play on the one thing and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens and 90% how we react to it. It can make or ruin your wedding. Remember the "why"
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change Courage to change the things, I can and the wisdom to know the difference.....
Prom time is here...The "in" is to rent your dress. Come look at our dresses
It' s that time of year, We partied celebrated the holidays and now we have all this extra weight. How do we take it off. Have you heard of Body by Vi?
Eight months ago I had a father of one of my grooms come in to get remeasured for his tux as he had lost a lot of weight and inches. He talked to me a little about Body by Vi, but I had been talked about it through other people but I wasn't interested. Because I didn't want to go to any party or be having to sale to my family and friends. I don't have the extra time for any of that. Well, a week went by and he had lost more weight when he came to get his tux. We talked and he made it where I didn't have to go to any parties or sale the product. I just could get the product. So Teri, Scott and I took the "90 day challenge"
To my surprise, it taste good, like a cake mix or milk shake. It's easy to take, and easy to mix but to my surprise I really like the taste. I had tried other weight loss products in the past, I just couldn't drink them, I'm picky about the taste and if it taste bad I won't drink it. This product is good tasting!! First month I lost 3 inches in my bust , 1 1/2 inches in my waist, 3 inches in my hips We did the shape kit. We replaced breakfast and lunch with the shakes and eat normal supper. Easy...
At first I thought the product was expensive but my grocery bill went down. The cost per day for the program is less than people spend on one fast food lunch or breakfast, one Body By Vi shake figures out to be $1.63. It provides much more nutrition and health support, for maximum transformation. The shake mix provides complete nutrition. You feel good. We ran out of the product this last week, because I had shared some of it and we missed it so much that I emailed Teresa to see if I could get some product from any one until mine came in. I love this product.
I wanted to give this product to my brides without them having to go to parties or having to sell it to your friends. You can buy the product directly from my website www.tmbridalshop.com
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No salesman will call on you, no party, just you and the computer. It will be delivered to your door. Let me know how you did. I'm so thankful Mark talked me in to it. I feel better than I have in years. If you later want to find out how to get "yours free" or make
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Your are getting married, again...develope the right foundation for your future.
According to national statistics, 35 percent of the weddings each year are celebrated by couples marrying for the first time, and 65 percent are second marriages for at least one of the parties. Twenty one percent of all adults have been married more; than once. Ninety five percent of all people marry at least once during their lifetime. Sixty-four percent of the women who have been divorced, and sixty eight percent of the men who have been remarry. Remarriage often make for a complex extra family. If each of you have been married before, your children may have a bounty of step-grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins.
Marrying again is a new beginning, for you, a new opportunity to create a life with someone that you love. With the benefit of previous experience and your determination to make this marriage work, you have a strong chance to developing a good and lasting relationship.
But don't forget the kids. They need to be told first.about the news of the marriage This should to come from you, you don't want them to hear about it from some one else.The idea is convey an atmosphere of joy and celebration., Children from a former marriage must be carefully deal with. You should tell the children yourself; Try to choose a time when they are happy and well rest. Tell them of the happiness you hope the new marriage will bring all of you. and give them an opportunity to express and discuss their feelings. Let them participate in preparation for the wedding ceremony and in the ceremony itself. They might be candlelighter, flower girls, junior bridesmaids, junior groomsmen, etc. Their sense of belonging will ease the situation, and you will be helping them to feel important at a time when they may feel their position in the family to be threatened.
If you are having a professional help you plan your wedding, be sure that person cares about you and your wedding, be sure to tell them that this is your second marriage and that kids are involved. They can help include the children and make them feel special. It does make a difference. Remember, you are laying the foundation for yourfuture.
Recently, I worked with a bride and groom who were dealing with this situation. He had been married before, and had a daughter from the former marriage. They weren't going to tel his daughter about the marriage until after they were married. As it turned out, she was happy about their marriage, but she was very hurt at not knowing of the marriage until she was told of it by someone else. "Can you believe it?" she asked me. "I was the last to know , and I'm not even in the wedding?
Many children secretly hope that their parents will get back together after a divorce. Because a new marriage ends this dream, they sometimes consider the new spouse an intruder.
In addition, the children have already been hurt by the death of a parent or by a divorce. A step parent not only represents a new person who may hurt them, but a person who steals their parent's time and attention .Brides and grooms, encourage your children to talk about their feelings and frustrations. As parents, you need to use extra patience, understanding, compassion and empathy with your children during this time.
Last week, I worked with another bride and groom. They had three daughters from former marriages, and all of them were excited about the wedding. Each had her own special job each felt that the wedding couldn't go off without them.
Hats off to those parents.
Remember, when you have been married before, there are grandparents from the first marriage. These grandparents are still grandparents. Don't forget them; they are special people. Their grandchildren are special to them. Don't keep them apart. Grandparents get hurt in a divorce too.
Remember, you are laying the foundation for your future. You want this marriage to work and this means understanding and love, jealous is not allowed.
You are getting married! Can you afford that dream wedding??Yes! You can I would love to show you how. The First thing, you need to set down and talk to everyone who wants to be a part of the wedding. Start delicate conversations about money,size of guest list, wedding date, time, decide how expenses will be shared, found out who will help pay for what. Set a tentative budget.
Many wedding involve special situations. In cases where there has been a death or divorce in the family, and subsequent remarriage, there can be extra in-laws, grandparents and other family member who would like to take part in the wedding activities. There is no set rule on how to handle situations such as this as some families get along better than others. Individual circumstances can vary a great deal. Common sense, tact and diplomacy are needed. Consulting your clergyman may helped.
It's hard being parent. It's twice as hard being a step parent. I have always though there should be a special place in heaven for them. No matter how much they do it's not enough. Eight out of ten brides that I work with have step parents. They are faced with the problem of how to treat that part of the family.. It's not an easy time in some ways.
Many couples are torn between asserting their own ideas and beliefs, and dealing with the customs and traditions their families with them to follow. Only when everyone is willing compromise and be understanding, can these problems be resolved. So many times young women come in who have step-patents and who don't want the "real" parent to have anything to do with the wedding. Something that happened in the past, or something they didn't understand has hurt them. I tell them,. to remember this it a time for feelings, and , for love, and yes forgiving.
Advise to brides: Getting everyone to get a long will makes your budget better. Planning a medium to large wedding can be like running a corporation. You have to know a little bit about a lot of different things in order to make decisions. You must hire people to provide services for you, budget, and coordinate the whole thing without letting the little details get away from you. This takes leg work and time. Delegate the work assign you step parent a special job This will give the step-parent a feeling of belonging and being a part of your family. There is plenty of work to go around, and giving your step parent a a job to do will give you more time for the important details that will make your wedding personalize and so very special. That's what it's about - love.
Use tact and diplomacy in dealing with each parent to avoid hurt feelings that could tale a long time to heal. But you say, "Linda, What about me?" You need a budge, you need help paying for the wedding. You'll find that if you give a little, you'll receive twice as much back. A parent or step parent want to fell wanted and love. They give you the world if they could.
Advise to step-parents: Step parents have a very difficult job, and they are seldom appreciated as much as they should be. If you have accepted this difficult role, try to keep you expectations light, and your sense of humor ready at all time.
- Don't try to compete with the children's natural parents
- Remember this is the brides and grooms day
- Be there for them
- Think of their feelings first
- Be their friend, ready to help without questioning why
- Remember you are loved by their parent that you are married to.
- Remember this is hard for the real parent too. Memories of the past will come forth be ready to smile and know you are loved
A young woman came in to discuss arranging her wedding. When we came to the discussion of her flowers, I asked,"how many fathers?""One, no two, but I don't claim my real father. He's not walking me down the aisle. He was never a father to me whenwas growing up, and now he thinks he my father. My step father is walking me down the aisle." she said. Seeing hurt and tears in her eyes, made my heart go out to her. "Honey," I said. "Please don't do that to your father. You really could hurt him (This is the other side of the coin the real parent getting hurt.) Brides, think before you decide. This is the only special time you'll walk down the aisle. It's a father's dream to give his daughter to the man of her dreams. This a dream since you were born. Don't take that away. things we do affect a lot of people of the past and the future. Your wedding could be the bridge between hurt feelings of the past and forgiving of the future. Your folks actions has nothing to do with you. What was done can't be undone, forging is the only way to move forward.TALK...Tell your parents what you feel and why. Fathers and Mothers, talk to your kids. This is a good time to explain the past, a time to tell your children why you did what you did. Time to let the past go. If you could talk to one another, then you'll all be winners. The old human emotions when hurt --hurt back and no one wins. That is why you need to talk.
Money can ruin relationship family and friends. If you need for groomsmen and bridesmaid to pay for their attire be up front with them. While it is a honor to be selected, keep in mind that it takes a tremendous amount of effort, and money on their end. Let them know what you expect from them when you ask them to be in the wedding. This way if they can not afford it they can tell you than. This will save hard feelings.
We can help on any budget..At Tomorrow's Memories Bridal Shop you have choices You can rent or buy off the rack..We have a payment plan with no interest. You put a little money down and make monthly payments until your wedding.
I have been in business since 1986, I feel renting is the only way to go. Ask your self when are you ever going to wear that dress again. Renting saves lots of money.
Remember Talking helps...
May Gods' love embraces you as you go through lifes' journey